Why is Anger such a difficult emotion to get a grip on and really get to a point of personal change with, especially in those ‘particular situations’ in which we feel so strongly that our Anger is justified and ‘the only possible response’?
“The Anchor of Anger” is how I would describe the way I’ve come to understand anger as it relates to my personal experiences with this emotion.
Anger has been one of the most difficult points of change for me, and I’ve found that the ‘big anger’ always starts with the accumulation of ‘little moments’ of anger. And so it’s important to develop the awareness of what kind of pattern we are accessing in those little moments, because the change within anger starts with taking responsibility for those underlying ideas, beliefs, opinions, justifications, expectations, judgments, that we are Accepting and Allowing to Define ourselves in those little, seemingly ‘small’ situations.
The body can only store and suppress so much emotional energy and that’s why it inevitably gets released in an explosion of emotion. Understand the Anchor of Anger, reflect on it, and start using writing to investigate which underlying ‘Anchor Points’ define your particular anger pattern.